londonzhiloh:

Become your dream.

… everybody’s busy trying to save themselves. as they should be. <3

this.

kholioli:

“Everyone has an opinion. One of the keys to mastering my personal psychology has been choosing who to listen to — and who can be smiled at, then ignored.” — Ramit Sethi

The boo and I have so many changes coming at us … life is moving pretty quickly right now … and honestly, I believe we’re prepared.  Prepared to adapt and grow with what comes.

We’re accepting feedback … but not internalizing all of it … and refusing to rely solely on the opinions of others.

Not because ppl really suck … but because people give you their opinions based on their personal fears and past experiences and future predictions.

You are the only one that lives in your skin every second of every day.  Hear others.  Know and trust yourself.  Let you control you.

kholioli:

So the dissertation process is coming … slowly.  But still coming.

Somehow amidst launching a new brand and building an already launched brand, and being the best housewife of life, I’ve decided that I want to be a doctor.  

Actually I decided that I wanted to be a doctor long ago … so … I guess I need to stop hassling myself (read: be gentle with me)  + STOP MAKING EXCUSES + remember that before the boo, before the brands, before the moving across country and leaving my friends and family and sense of familiarity … and LIBRARY … behind, I made a decision for me … to me.  And that’s what’s most important anyways, isn’t it?

Did I mention I left my library behind?

[Insert young colloquial slightly cheesy reference to Jay-Z.]

Allow me to rekindle lets all reminisce like Mary did,

Think I have to send you a reminder,

Here it is

Do what I done without crying in the environment and what ya’ll did it in without dying my n-gga,
Rap like I rap without lying and then tying both together like iron my n-gga,
Write 16’s in between running 16 businesses,
All the while showing these young punks what the business is,
As if I’m gonna let you n-ggas style on me,
As if …

Ok, not all of us have committed to a thug life … so … for others in the struggle … whatever struggle you’re in … remember …

“Without ambition one starts nothing. Without work one finishes nothing. The prize will not be sent to you. You have to win it.” 
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

No? Not the one?

How about …

“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” 
― Barack Obama

Not that one either?  How about this?  Special from me to you …

Suck that sh*t up and get moving.  Whiney b*tches don’t build the future.  You do.  And you’re not a whiney b*tch. You’re an amazing human being with power and vision, and most importantly, agency.  So make Nike’s marketing money worth it and JUST DO IT.  Whatever IT is.

you stay cool. i’ll stay khoLi. <3

thunderpopcola:

This is how you lose her. 

You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.

You must remember when she forgets. 

You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.

She remembers when you forget. 

You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the  beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

You must learn her. 

You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to. 

You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

And, this is how you keep her.

too. true.

a wise girl has no limits …

Everyone has their story. Everyone has issues. You have to face your fears.

- Lisa Bonet

lafemmerose:

Beautiful people do not just happen.

Take that and run with it. <3